Violence Should Always Be Too Heavy
Wherein my grandfather teaches me to twirl a pistol.
My mother’s father, Howard, was a war hero.
I have only one memory of my grandfather. He died when I was very young, from a heart attack, and is interred in a military graveyard inside the borders of the great state of Minnesota.
During World War II, Howard Nyquist served in the Third Army during a campaign in Austria. By all measures and weights, he was a brave man.
Listen: my grandfather, Howard, was entrusted to run communications lines between his unit and another unit, across a battlefield. This he did; it was an act of heroism worthy of a Silver Star.
Let us be very clear as to what “running communications lines” meant.
When two units were separated on a battlefield, if a series of copper wires could be connected between the two, voice communication could exist. No power was needed, of course: military phones at that time were powered by the vibration of a speaker’s voice alone. So only the wire needed to be passed.
This meant that some people – two soldiers, nearly always – would grab a spool of copper wire and run with it across the battlefield towards the distant unit.
Until they were killed.
At this point, two more soldiers were sent to run out, grab the spool, and continue the death march. Until they, too, were broken with bullets. At which time another pair would be sent.
And so forth.
Howard made it across.
In my life there have been men who I trusted who have called me “courageous” and yet I do not believe that I can stand in my grandfather’s shadow.
These things – these elements of war, the brutal truths of it – they are not spoken of. Did Howard kill men? Probably. Did he talk of this, boast of it?
No. He did not.
My only solid memory of Howard was when I was four years old. My mother, brother, and I had gone north to pay a visit to the family. Howard had suffered a heart attack in previous months; he was unwell.
I played at cowboys and indians. I had a small, toy “cowboy” gun, made of tin, with plastic handgrips and a faux-leather holster. I’d burnt the caps the instant they were loaded, but that meant nothing: I could still lay out imaginary Indian Braves.
Howard, my grandfather, his voice, rumbling: “Hello, little cowboy. Come with me a moment. I want to teach you something,” and he ushered me into his study.
Howard was a gun collector. Us children, my cousins and I – we were never allowed into the Study: that room was for the Guns and for the Model Airplanes. He collected antiques. For many years after his death, his friends would hold memorial powder shoots in his honor.
(When he died, I inherited a couple of his unbuilt model kits. Today, I regret my pathetic fumblings at their assembly.)
I had never been let into the Study. It smelled of wood and smoke and varnish. Old things, things to be respected. Its walls were decorated with rifles and the plastic ghosts of Japanese Zero planes.
“I see you have a cowboy gun,” he said. “Do you know how to twirl it?”
“No,” I said. Dim references of what had to be John Wayne and Gary Cooper filled my head.
“Well. I’ll show you.”
Howard produced a gun from somewhere. Today, my mind recognizes it as a Walker Colt. It was a dark, ominous thing, dirty and yet clean at the same time.
His deft hand twirled it around and around. Backwards, now forwards, like a coin dancing over a juggler’s knuckles. Fast, so very, very, fast.
“Now you.”
And I couldn’t.
After my initial failures, he helped me to hold my little tin gun, showed my how to spin it around my finger. How to use the weight of the barrel to force the grip to spin, and vice versa. He showed me how to draw and twirl. How to twirl and holster.
“Son, listen to me,” he said. “This, this twirling? This is theatricality.
“It is not a gun. Guns are violence, and violence should never done for enjoyment.”
He cracked open the chamber of his Walker Colt, checking it to make sure it was empty. Satisfied, he closed it with a flick of his wrist, and spun the weapon so that the handle was facing me.
“Go on,” he said. “Take it.”
I fumbled a moment, holstering my Roy Rogers “weapon,” and then grasped the Colt. The handle was too big for one of my four-year-old hands so I grabbed it with two. When he let go of the barrel, its weight bore me down: a thunk sound as it immediately hit the carpet.
The gun weighed near as much as I did. I could barely hold the handle up.
“Go on,” he said. “Twirl it.”
It was a weight greater than any I’d ever known. I struggled for a bit, simply trying to lift the damned thing before I gave up, saying, “I can’t. It’s too heavy.”
“Good,” he said. “Violence should always be too heavy to carry.
“You remember that.”
Comments on Violence Should Always Be Too Heavy
Taking violence lightly is, mostly, the privilege of those who have never known violence. A few of those who have killed who will brag about it, but it weighs heavily on most.
what if some of those people uses guns in wrong ways, do you think that is fair for those who are killed but innocent. i think, for me guns should be face out in the word.
because most of those violent people uses guns to kill.
Actually baseball bats, knives, and bare hands kill more.
I apologize for the necropost (although I note that Heinrich’s reply is itself a necropost), but this is grossly inaccurate. Such means are used to commit homicide more than rifles or shotguns (or the two combined), and we see that cherry-picked data set presented in various places. However, their lethality is dwarfed by that of handguns. According to FBI data, from which the cherry-picked data set is pulled, guns of whatever type are the means in 68% of all homicides in the US.
I’ve often felt torn between the reality of violence and what I had always thought of as the male primal urge to hunt. Hunting, as originally wired into our DNA, required violence. Does that mean that male humans are inherently driven to violence? Of course not. My father taught me about guns at around the same age as jorm, but we were only allowed to fire guns at targets, and sternly admonished against pointing a gun at anything else.
But we have had first person shooters in our culture for nearly 20 years now. How many people out there who have played FPSes have had no experience of real violence, or even the potential of it? Notions of “good” and “bad” cross over here, because I think it’s a blessing that we have ways to channel the hunting impulse without resorting to real violence.
i think human on human violence is as inherent in us as the urge to hunt…….to be chief, to dominate your rival tribe, to be the best fighter possible is all part of the human mind……violent human tendencies do not just stem from the lust of the hunt
Psychologically, killing a person is a very different experience from killing a non-human animal.
My father hunts. Nothing of a great hunter. But he has taught us never to point a gun at anyone. Ever. Even a toy gun. This is a lesson I remember.
Go to youtube and watch ‘dangerous things’ made by ‘nutnfancy’. Nutnfancy talks about dangerous things, a fast-cars, a chain-saw, a sharp knife, making fire, a loaded gun, and why people need to experience them, not to stay away from them.
I’s ok to kill people if your government tells you to do it. It’s not ok to have to live with it in your mind. It’s not ok to kill people if you need to protect yourself or your family and friends.
Why doesn’t the government just put people who want to die with people who want to kill and we will all be happier?
Jorm, your grandfather was a smart, smart man. Violence should never be cheap, easy or casual.
Sorry for necroposting, but it had to be said.